Posts by altzey

"I gave up trying to understand people long ago. Now I let them try to understand me!" -Charles M Schulz

I Don’t Want to Look Like Her

Anyone else ever feel like deleting their Instagram due to the ridiculous amount of — for lack of a better word — Instagram Hoes?? Do your makeup like me and you can look like a clown, too!

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Call me crazy, but I’m actually happy with how I look. I don’t feel the need to wear a full face of makeup every day. I don’t need to wear cheap, slutty clothes to get attention. I don’t always do my hair – sometimes I let it air dry and I’m out the door. Guess what? I still feel pretty good about myself most days.

There’s nothing wrong with getting all dolled up (I most definitely do quite a bit), but the point I’m trying to make is that it’s important to feel comfortable simply as you are. For Pete’s sake, ladies, makeup is supposed to enhance your features, not mask them!

I don’t have to have super over-drawn eyebrows to be beautiful. I don’t need lip injections because the lips I have now go perfectly with my smile. I have no desire whatsoever to look like a Kardashian. Girls like that are a dime a dozen and I’d rather be unique and original.

So shove it, “beauty standards”! I don’t have, nor do I want room for you in my life.

PEACE.

 

Ashleyxx

This is What I do

The looks, the 2 cents, the whispers, the presumptions, the gossip, the back-handed comments, the judgements, the pity, the missed opportunities, the “do it my way.”

What you’ve read above is my fuel to run; run faster, longer, stronger, better than ever.

At the end of the day I am a stubborn mule (I bet you didn’t know).

Just a simple, stubborn mule alone with her music.

xx,

Ashley

The Top Seven Things that Surprised Me about the U.K.

As I stated in my last post, my husband and I visited the U.K. recently. It truly was a lovely and unforgettable experience. Since most of us are familiar with what goes on across the pond, I figure I’ll approach this post from a different angle and enlighten you with: The Top Seven Things that Surprised Me about the U.K.

Side note: I visited primarily large, populous cities and realize these things may not apply to every city, town, village, etc.

1. It’s incredibly expensive. 

We somewhat expected this. Obviously the euro is worth more than USD, so if you’re planning a trip there, check out a few things that are free to the public as well (museums, certain monuments, parks, etc.)

2. Their public transit is amazing.

Two words: Oyster Card. So incredibly efficient, fast, and surprisingly comfortable.

3. Everyone wears black all the time.

I felt kind of dumb wearing my colorful clothes and I’m honestly not that colorful of a person. Rarely will you catch me wearing pink and yet I still felt I stood out like an…American. Perhaps Europeans wear more black in the winter?

4. Not too photography friendly.

Don’t even attempt (I did and got caught) to take pictures inside of any cathedrals, castles, or palaces. If they catch you with your phone out, they will politely tell you to put it away. Exceptions to this were Kensington Palace and St. Albans.

5. The Queen is a busy lady.

When we were at Buckingham, the Queen was there and while we were at Windsor, she was there. I am convinced the secret to a long life is to never stop working.

6. Don’t expect great service.

Since those who work in the service industry are paid minimum wage or more (unlike the U.S), tips are incredibly uncommon. In fact, any time we wanted to leave a tip, they would tell us to not worry about it. Unfortunately, this caused us to wait long periods for our food and bill. These peeps ain’t working for tips. Most of the time, we had to flag our waiter down when we needed something or wanted to pay. Also, drink refills and ice aren’t a thing. But my, they sure can make a dessert.

7. No small talk or unwarranted eye contact.

Maybe I’m a little naive since I’ve been blessed to live in such friendly places. The few times I tried to strike up conversations, most gave a look like ok why are you talking to to me also why are you wearing colors. Of course, there were exceptions to this. People definitely were not rude. In fact, I have never experienced such politeness. People would simply rather not talk to you if they don’t really know you. No offense taken.

So, those are the seven top things I didn’t expect while visiting the U.K. I had a jolly good time and am looking forward to traveling there again!

I’ll leave you with a few more pictures.

Cheers!

CoCo

While my husband and I were in the U.K. (post on that coming soon!), we thought it might be nice to take a little break from the rainy weather and see a movie. I had been wanting to see CoCo since its release and was surprised it was still in theaters.

Guys, this movie was SO much more than I expected. It was positively wonderful and had my husband and I BOTH in tears.

The color and animations are breathtaking and the story is so heartwarming. CoCo is all about family and that really resonates with me. I was extremely close with my grandmother and lost her a little over a year ago. I love the idea of our loved ones who’ve passed on visiting us one night a year — how amazing would that be? This gringa will definitely be celebrating Dia de los Muertos this year!

I encourage anyone reading to watch CoCo and make sure to include the family. Don’t forget a box of tissues and be prepare to feel all the feels!

Hasta la proxima,

Ashley

Dealing with Unsupportive Friends & Family

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I think many of us have been there. We’re excited about something new in our life and  when we tell a close friend or relative, they are surprisingly unenthusiastic.

It sucks. I have been in that place many times. I have learned to reserve my accomplishments and innovative ideas for myself and a very select few.

I’ll never forget when I first began seriously perfecting my craft in photography back in 2009 (although, my interest in it dates back much further).  I have always been a creative person, so for me, I felt natural behind the lens. For a few others, they assumed I was simply jumping on the “everyone’s a photographer now because they have a nice camera” bandwagon. This definitely wasn’t the case for me. I was simply at a point in my life where I could finally afford a professional camera. But alas, I could not control what others thought.

I continued to take photos anyway, regardless of the ill-wishers and the one-uppers. Above all else, I enjoy it! I cannot tell you the amount of times I offered to take photos for someone I knew who was actively searching for a photographer and they opted to go with the more expensive, “professional” photographer, without even looking at my portfolio! It definitely hurt my feelings to say the least. I knew I was good at what I did and all I needed was someone to give me a chance. Naturally, I figured my friends and family would support me the most, but to my surprise, it was mostly complete strangers who would contact me through my website or social media accounts showing interest in my craft. So many friends had expected me to support their endeavors but yet, had no desire in supporting mine.

So you might ask why so many people in my circle were unsupportive of my dream? Unfortunately, I don’t have an answer for that. Sometimes people are just people. They may be envious, not really care, OR think I’m completely talent-less. But none of that really matters. What matters is how I feel. I’ve continued on with my photography and professional writing journey for quite some time now. I learn new things all the time. I know that as long as I continue doing what I love, I will truly have something to show for it one day (hopefully sooner than later!).

 

xx

Ashley

 

The Front Room

As I try to remember you, I gather bits and pieces and preserve them, placing them in an emerald green box made of chipped glass.

How you adored the color green and chatting away in the regal front room.

From time to time, I admire the contents inside this enchanting chamber.

XXX

Blue lagoon carpet

The ivory white piano in the corner

A dark floral patterned sofa

The mirrored wall with gold veins that glisten as the sun peaks through the window

It is here where my heart lives

Here is where you may live forever

Words to Live By

“Re-examine all you have been told in school and church or in any book, and dismiss whatever insults your own soul; and your very flesh shall be a great poem, and have the richest fluency, not only in its words, but in the silent lines of its lips and face, and between the lashes of your eyes, and in every motion and joint of your body.” • Walt Whitman